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| When you come to a crossroads and you are asked to choose ... What doing? |
Yesterday, November 29 meeting we had our second practice of NLP, three hours devoted to practice and talk among practitioners, about different topics of NLP.
And we talked about one of the assumptions or beliefs of NLP tools that seems to be the most innocent. In fact, during training exercises and workshops, I ask participants to choose from the list of presuppositions NLP, those with which they agree and those you do not. And this in particular, rarely appears in any of those lists.
"Choice is better not Choose"
Several concepts emerged in our conversation and the experience we had. Choose
relate it to the dreams we had children. It allows us to remember that we can always choose between being happy or not. It allows us to remember that what happens is what happens and the only thing that is under our control is how we react to it, how we choose to react. In a society in which we ask for immediate feedback and instant results, it may be difficult to stop and ask what I decide to choose in this situation? But what is certain is that when we do, our sense of peace and tranquility outweighs the minute we stopped to answer us.
is also true that choosing involves risk, what will happen if I choose this? What will happen if I choose that?, There is a danger of making mistakes, true. And do not you think that the risk of stalling, aimlessly is sadder. Ok, we were wrong, and? What if I'm wrong 10 times and know my strengths and do something different and maybe, just maybe something wonderful achievement once # 11? Is not it great? So it's time to grow, to mature, to choose and be curious about the possibilities that could arise.
Speaking of that risk and responsibility involved, Lilian made a very interesting question: How do I remember that I can continue to choose? Especially when we're used to being punished for choosing wrongly, by making mistakes ... The only trial answer was: Flexibility, flexibility with yourself. now choose to go live in China, tomorrow you can choose another one ... who says no? "Where are those rules that forbid us to be flexible with ourselves and learn from our mistakes?
is also true that when our values \u200b\u200bare clear and we know what is really important to us, it is also easier to choose and make decisions and ecological responsibility. We set the example of two mothers, almost parallel lives, but very different values. For one, the stability of their children and home were most important, for the other, their freedom was more important. Faced with a work situation in which they are required to be working longer hours that could benefit them financially in the long run, the first not doubt (the first is the safety of their children) The second rejects the bid (want time to do other things). And watch out, these are real life cases in which both mothers love their children intensely ... however, their values \u200b\u200bwere different. Choosing was easier for both and both faced responsibility for the consequences of their decisions. It's that simple, not necessarily easy.
Ah! What about the phrase "NO CHOICE IS TO CHOOSE? At the end of the day, we always have to face our responsibility for the decisions we make, whether consciously or unconsciously do so.
On this assumption also check our internal ecology, how I feel when I choose or not choose? How do you feel my body? And this is what we found, and may you have more comments to add, please write in the blog to share your point of view.
| Choose | Choosing not |
| Feeling of Power | I have to fold |
| | Anguish |
| Joy | Indifference |
| | give my voice |
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... choice is definitely better than no choice!
The next meeting is on Monday 13 December ... with the theme "People usually will make the best decision possible in any situation." you there!
Elisabeth Tepper Kofod
November 30. 10
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